Community Book Club

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Members are invited to share and discuss grief and loss related books that they have found helpful.

[kblake]

I was reintroduced to knitting in January, the month before Corey died, through a mother/daughter knitting class I took with Cassidy. After Corey died I found I carried my knitting around all the time because it gave me something to do with my mind. My girlfriend thought I was crazy until she read a book review of a book that just came out in June called Comfort -- A journey through grief, by Ann Hood. Low and behold the author wrote her about her personal story of a journey through grief after losing her 6 year old daughter suddenly after a 48 hour bought with Meningitis. The author, just like me, never really knitted before but was introduced to it after her daughter died and found it to be comforting. She too carried her knitting around everywhere. She vindicated my sanity. I read her story and sent her an e-mail to which she responded within minutes of receiving it and told me to keep on knitting.

Just a little note.

Karen

[ericaw]

Hey Karen, thanks for sharing and so sorry for your loss. I recently started sewing, and though it's not something I can carry around I find it therapeutic. At first I thought I was just distracting myself, not really getting through the greif. But I am constructing, putting all the pieces together. It's positive, meditative and progressive. I took a sewing workshop which was also helpful in that it got me socially circulating (I'm one of those homebody types).

Take care-

Erica

kblake Wrote:I was reintroduced to knitting in January, the month before Corey died, through a mother/daughter knitting class I took with Cassidy. After Corey died I found I carried my knitting around all the time because it gave me something to do with my mind. My girlfriend thought I was crazy until she read a book review of a book that just came out in June called Comfort -- A journey through grief, by Ann Hood. Low and behold the author wrote her about her personal story of a journey through grief after losing her 6 year old daughter suddenly after a 48 hour bought with Meningitis. The author, just like me, never really knitted before but was introduced to it after her daughter died and found it to be comforting. She too carried her knitting around everywhere. She vindicated my sanity. I read her story and sent her an e-mail to which she responded within minutes of receiving it and told me to keep on knitting.

Just a little note.

Karen

[kblake]

[quote=ericaw]
Hey Karen, thanks for sharing and so sorry for your loss. I recently started sewing, and though it's not something I can carry around I find it therapeutic. At first I thought I was just distracting myself, not really getting through the greif. But I am constructing, putting all the pieces together. It's positive, meditative and progressive. I took a sewing workshop which was also helpful in that it got me socially circulating (I'm one of those homebody types).

Take care-

Erica


Hi Erica,

I am glad you found something that works for you. You are so right about the process being contructive, positive, meditative and progressive.

Peace and Blessings,

Karen

[jonepain]

There are five stages of Grief and Loss.Denial: Usually our first reaction to the loss of something we're attached to, is denial.I brought him to the best doctors...I called talk radio health shows...all to find some answer other than the one I kept hearing...no one lives through stage 4b pancreatic cancer once the liver is involved.Anger: This stage of grief is probably the cause of the most pain from grief.Anger can cause deep and sometimes permanent wounds that are totally unnecessary.Then I had to let it go, or it would be my life that was lost...consumed in anger over things I didn't understand or control.Bargaining:This is as strange a grief behavior as Denial. It's where we try to make deals to gain back what we lost.As a minister, several years ago, I got fired from a church staff over a misunderstanding.Instead of accepting the decision, I decided to start a non-profit organization to perform the same services I had been performing and then contract with the church.I was unable to bargain my way back into that church, and once I accepted what had happened,I was able to move into areas of greater opportunity.